Knowing When to Reassess

    During the summer before I began my first semester of college, I told myself I was going to wild out. If anyone doesn't know what that means it is literally just partying every night to me and I said this because I never got out of the house in high school. I was constantly focused on school, school was all that I could and did talk about in high school, so I made it my mission to wild out when I entered college.

    Up until my first college homecoming, I was at parties Thursday-Saturday to the point that I started feeling sluggish and down because I was overexerting myself at these parties and doing things I clearly had no business doing. Also, I started realizing how the girls I hung out with never seemed to want to hang out when there was not a party and that was the crowd I was spending the majority of time with on the weekend, so I didn't really feel like I made connection with them when it came to after the party.

    This post is not to tell you all about my story, it is just to give you background on why I needed to take a step back and reassess my life. So, from my first semester of college, the phrases listed below are why I decided to take a step back to reassess my life.

• Relying on partying or social events to make you feel whole.
• Not knowing what you are doing to improve your life or anyone around you
• Not focusing on academics nor work
• Looking for guys to validate who you are
• Letting friends use you (when it comes to your energy, car, utilities, etc)
• Clinging to friends
• Not taking the time to know who you are (morals and beliefs)
• Productivity has either begun to decrease or is completely gone. 

     While, the list is from a college perspective anyone can deal with some of the things listed and if you are currently going through at least 3 of the points, start re-assessing your actions and figuring out why you are letting things go on in your life that are unproductive or toxic. I have been through so much my first semester of college that I have taken a step back and realized I need to be focused on me, to be All About Growth. To figure out who I am by myself and if I am the same person around other people.